If you’ve ever been in a relationship, you know the quiet anxiety in your head that tries to convince you that your significant other doesn’t know or care how you feel. The feelings can start disguised as sleepless nights, over-analyzing the pitch of a text message, or overthinking simple silence. And for most of us, the anxiety doesn’t just disappear. It molds its way into distance and miscommunication.
Communication Is Trending
However, in recent years, there’s been a growing trend of communication promoting healthier relationship dynamics. They reinforce that rather than waiting for your partner to understand your nonverbal cues and anxieties, you should just ask. Check in and clarify. Tell them what’s on your mind and ask them the same. The jump from assumption to transparency has helped so many people break away from the negative patterns of worry, miscommunications, and mistrust.
Bid for Connection
Many new communication styles have found their way into the spotlight, in media and in clinical science. They are reported to relieve anxiety and bring connections closer together. The Gottman Institute reported on the importance of “Bids for Connection.” These are small gestures that show you are responsive and attentive. A longitudinal study of over 40,000 couples done by The Gottman Institute claimed that one of the most prophetic indicators of divorce is whether or not couples respond to one another’s bids for connection. In other words, do they respond to their partners’ needs, or do they just tune them out?
Be Transparent
Open-ended transparency is also in. Even many influencers in healthy relationships have reported that the reason they’ve had success is because of asking questions. Asking questions yes and no questions, how your partner feels, and what they need, welcomes vulnerability. Instead of closing an issue off with an assumption or defensiveness, your partner feels heard and understood.
According to the National Health Institutes of Health, poor communication is the most commonly cited reason that couples go to therapy. Their research shows that couples who worked to improve their relationship through therapy and intention saw a 70 percent success rate. Another study showed that in relationships where one partner suffered from mental illness, talking through those emotions with their partner correlated in a happier overall relationship dynamic.
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Ask With Intention
Relationship anxiety survives off of unexpressed emotions and silent treatments. The only way to break the cycle is through asking questions that result in clarity. Following questioning with listening and intention can shift the entire culture of a relationship. A relationship where anxiety is completely erased isn’t plausible. But the kind where it’s addressed and held with care very much is. The only way to purge the growing seeds in your stomach is to act. You’ll be surprised at what a single question can do for years of gripped anxiety.
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